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Practicing Mindfulness Is Simple as A-B-C




 Mindfulness has become a buzzword in recent years, but at its core, it is a practice of being fully present in the moment, without judgment or distraction. I know, simple.  But not easy because let's be real, judgement arises without trying and distractions abound! Imagine coasting along on the way to work, then all of a sudden there is a traffic delay. Or, in the case of being in "the city that never sleeps" you are delayed due to train traffic ahead. Insert distraction followed closely by his compadre, judgement.   One simple, yet powerful framework for cultivating mindfulness in everyday life is something I've been calling the "ABC" practice: Awareness, Breath, Choice. These three components work together to help us stay grounded, manage stress, and respond to life's challenges with greater clarity and calm.  Think about this as fundamental building blocks. The same way that letters combine to make words. Words come together to make sentences.  Sentences combine to create paragraphs, and so on.  In the case of life itself- starting on the atomic level is the combination of atoms to make molecules, molecules create cells, a group of cells create tissue, and these specialized tissues work to create functioning organs.

Let’s explore how each part of this practice can be applied in your day-to-day life.

A is for Awareness

Awareness is the foundation of mindfulness. It’s about being fully present and conscious of what is happening in the moment—both internally and externally. When we cultivate awareness, we begin to notice the subtle cues in our environment, our emotions, and our thought patterns. This helps us become more attuned to our needs and gives us the opportunity to make conscious decisions.

How to practice awareness:

  • Pause: Start by simply pausing, even for a few seconds. Notice your surroundings, your thoughts, and how you are feeling in the moment.
  • Name it: If you’re experiencing a strong emotion, try naming it. For example, "I’m feeling anxious," or "I’m feeling excited." By naming our emotions, we distance ourselves from them and can respond, rather than react, to what is happening.

Awareness opens the door to self-reflection, which is essential for personal growth. It’s in this space of noticing that we can begin to shift patterns that may no longer serve us.

B is for Breath

The breath is one of the most powerful tools we have to regulate our nervous system and bring ourselves back to the present moment. When we focus on our breath, we can slow down our heart rate, calm our minds, and create a sense of ease in the body. The beauty of the breath is that it’s always available to us, no matter where we are or what we’re doing.

How to practice breath:

  • Take a deep breath: In moments of stress or overwhelm, pause and take a slow, deep breath. Inhale through your nose, allowing your belly to rise, and then exhale slowly through your mouth.
  • Count your breaths: Try counting your breaths to anchor your attention. For example, inhale for a count of four, hold for a count of two, and exhale for a count of four. This can help shift your focus away from anxious thoughts and into your body.

By focusing on our breath, we create a buffer between stimulus and response, allowing us to approach situations with greater calm and clarity.  

C is for Choice

The third component, Choice, is about recognizing that, once we’ve cultivated awareness and connected with our breath, we have the ability to choose how we respond to situations. Often, we react to stressors on autopilot, but mindfulness gives us the opportunity to pause, breathe, and make a conscious choice.

How to practice choice:

  • Pause before reacting: When faced with a difficult situation, use the ABC practice to pause and breathe before choosing your response. Ask yourself, “What’s the most helpful or compassionate way to respond right now?”
  • Affirm your choice: After you’ve made your decision, affirm it with a positive intention or affirmation. For example, you might say to yourself, "I choose peace," or "I am safe in my body."

This final step reminds us that we are not at the mercy of our circumstances. We have the power to choose how we want to engage with the world, and this empowerment leads to greater emotional resilience and well-being.

Why the ABC's of Mindfulness Matter

The ABC practice may seem simple, but it’s a powerful tool for navigating daily challenges and stress. Awareness, Breath, and Choice are practical steps that can be integrated into any moment of the day, whether you're dealing with a stressful work situation, navigating personal relationships, or simply needing a break from the busyness of life.

This practice is particularly helpful when dealing with moments of overwhelm.

Call to Action: Try the ABC's for Yourself

Ready to begin your mindfulness journey? Start with the ABC practice today. Set aside a few moments each day to cultivate awareness, connect with your breath, and make mindful choices. If you're looking for a guide to help you begin, check out the short practice here.

Let the ABCs of mindfulness serve as your anchor, helping you move through life with greater clarity, peace, and intentionality.

It's All Practice

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